Pregnancy Loss

If you are reading this page because you have suffered a loss, my deepest condolences to you and your family. I hope that some of the resources on this page can be of help and comfort to you. If you are a friend or family member of someone who has recently experienced a miscarriage and stillbirth, I also hope that these resources can help you navigate the often uncertain waters of providing support during this difficult time.

A generation ago, there was a silent void when it came to the topic of pregnancy loss. While many women and families faced the devastating grief of losing a pregnancy, medical care providers and even counselors were not given any training in how to support families through the grieving process. On a societal level, the message was to get over the loss and try again. Fortunately, today we have a much more nuanced understanding of the grief process, and of the many levels of loss that a family might experience during a miscarriage or stillbirth.

As doulas, we bring a special sensitivity to our work with families who have experienced previous pregnancy loss. For those current clients who discover that they have lost their baby, we offer our services without charge. Many people assume that doulas are only for birth and postpartum support. While some doulas feel most comfortable in the realm of birth and postpartum, we strongly believe that women going through miscarriage or a stillbirth, whether at home or in the hospital, need more support than ever.

At Cascadia Birth Services, we believe that the doula model of care should extend to the full spectrum of pregnancy experiences…and this includes pregnancy loss.  I am continually seeking ways to further my own training so that I can offer compassionate, sensitive, and knowledgeable care for families who experience loss.  If you have any questions about what doula support for loss might look like, please contact us and we’d be glad to offer a free consultation.

We offer the following resources in the hopes that they will provide you with support as you journey through your grief. Most importantly, we hope that they are a reminder that you are not alone in this experience.

Websites

Brief Encounters: Portland-based support groups and phone line for bereaved parents

Hayden’s Helping Hands: Financial assistance for families who need help with medical expenses of stillbirth

Hygeia Foundation for Perinatal Loss and Bereavement

Resolve: The National Infertility Association

Share: Pregnancy Loss and Infant Support

Counselors

Laurie Cox, LCSW and Gabi Donnell, LCSW, Motheroots Counseling

Books

A Silent Sorrow: Pregnancy Loss: Guidanace and Support for You and Your Family, by Ingrid Kohn and Perry-Lynn Moffitt

Coming to Term: Uncovering the Truth About Miscarriage, by Jon Cohen

Ended Beginnings: Healing Childbearing Losses, by Claudia Panuthos and Catherine Romeo

Unspeakable Losses: Healing from Miscarriage, Abortion, and Other Pregnancy Loss, by Kim Kluger-Bell

Other Resources

Jizo Ceremony at Zen Community of Oregon